You Might Feel Stuck
Everyone develops through a series of psychosexual stages. Unfortunately, most people get fixated at some stage along the way. This causes difficulties in their lives.
For example, someone who has issues with control is likely stuck in the anal phase. They may be anal retentive which is overly self-controlling – stingy, stubborn, and perfectionistic. Alternatively, they might be anal expulsive, lacking any kind of control – messy, careless, and chaotic.
It’s okay if you feel defensive.
Entering psychoanalysis is a daunting prospect. Furthermore, everyone has developed their own defense mechanisms. For example, you don’t want to experience anxiety. Therefore, you have developed the mechanism of repression to force anxiety-provoking ideas deep down into your unconscious.
Some of your defense mechanisms are useful. However, they eventually stop serving you well. Believe it or not, you can begin to understand your defense mechanisms, and to select the ones that are helpful while changing behaviors that are no longer useful.
You can work through all of this. You can let your defenses reside. You can balance the forces of your id, ego, and superego. You can become unstuck from whatever phase you’re fixated on. You can do it all by developing transference in psychoanalysis and then working through that.